feat: eventually consistency API controls

[aeneasr]

Adds a feature used in Ory Network which enables trading faster reads for slightly outdated data.

This feature depends on Cockroach functionality and configuration, and is not possible for MySQL or PostgreSQL.

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[codecov]

Codecov Report

Merging #3558 (1bf737d) into master (e16fed1) will increase coverage by 0.01%.
Report is 6 commits behind head on master.
The diff coverage is 86.01%.

❗ Current head 1bf737d differs from pull request most recent head 5e4f1f8. Consider uploading reports for the commit 5e4f1f8 to get more accurate results

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+ Hits        17912    17950      +38     
- Misses       3664     3669       +5     
- Partials     1347     1348       +1     

Files	Coverage Δ
driver/config/config.go	83.33% <100.00%> (+0.04%)	⬆️
identity/test/pool.go	99.57% <100.00%> (+0.01%)	⬆️
selfservice/hook/web_hook.go	79.65% <100.00%> (ø)
selfservice/strategy/oidc/strategy_registration.go	68.32% <100.00%> (ø)
selfservice/strategy/oidc/strategy_login.go	72.22% <90.90%> (ø)
identity/handler.go	84.14% <33.33%> (+0.05%)	⬆️
cmd/daemon/serve.go	87.93% <75.00%> (ø)
persistence/sql/identity/persister_identity.go	81.61% <80.00%> (-0.76%)	⬇️

... and 1 file with indirect coverage changes